Topics: Are You Too Picky When It Comes to Dating? - The Everygirl
There are plenty of good reasons for setting the bar high when it comes to dating, especially as we transition out of our early 20s. The stakes can definitely feel higher. We’re busier; we have less time to spend meeting new people. It’s hard enough finding the time to spend with friends and family as it is. We also likely have a better idea what or who it is we’re looking for, and we don’t want to feel like we’re wasting time. As our friends begin to settle down, it can also feel like there’s pressure to find the right person.
However, if you’ve been in the dating game for a while and are feeling frustrated with the apparent lack of options, at a certain point it might be worth asking if it’s possible that the problem is actually that you’re being overly picky.
Believe it or not, thinking someone is out of your league can also be a kind of pickiness. Often, this comes from a place of insecurity. We don’t have to worry about feeling hurt or rejected when we’re the one who’s saying no. Assumptions like: “They’re too good for me” or “I’m not smart/interesting/attracting [insert self-critical thought here] enough” can often be another sign of pickiness—and can make us more likely to dismiss potential partners too quickly.