Topics: Jon Gosselin Is Relentlessly Fighting for His Kids'' After.
The plan for today is to make an argument that fighting before marriage is a good thing. Does this sound counter-intuitive? Here are my arguments.
Pamela Paul, author of the well-researched book The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony , suggests that “a typical marriage follows a certain course. The first year is the hardest, as the saying goes.”* In my role as a marital counselor, I often hear that the first two years of marriage are experienced in one of two extreme ways. That is, some couples experience consistent moments of sublime bonding that lead others to observe that they have “that newlywed glow,” while other couples acknowledge that the first two years were “a rough transition.”
I would hypothesize that a major reason for this distinction is that some couples marry too soon, while they are still in the cocaine-rush phase of their relationship. When couples marry during the cocaine-rush phase, they can predictably expect to go through the tunnel of stress and chaos that is the entry into the “Testing” phase at some point soon after they are married.