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It is wonderful to want to find love again after the death of your spouse. Dating after the loss of a spouse can help establish a new identity and can help remedy feelings of loneliness and vulnerability. Determine when you are ready to date. Decide if dating or a long-term relationship is best for you. Identify complicating factors that exist for dating. Finally, be both practical and romantic in your approach to dating.
There is a difference between casually dating and seeking a long-term relationship. Deborah Carr, a sociology professor at Rutgers University, determined that widows tend to mourn the loss of their late husbands longer, where widowed men want to find replacements as helpers and confidantes faster than their female counterparts. Whether its gender or simply preference you need to determine where you are on the spectrum. You may want intermittent companionship or you may want to replace the permanent loss and have daily companionship.
Practicalities like children and money may weigh into your dating equation following the death of your spouse. Psychologically, your children will see you as more vulnerable and want to protect you. They may show disapproval or try to monitor your behavior regarding your dating. Be cognizant to respect the loss of their other parent but ascertain your strength in the situation. Practically, finances do affect our relationships, so be aware of what you have inherited and how that economically affects your lifestyle, both short-term and long-term